Thursday, September 04, 2008

Don't You Just Love "Elements"?

Annie Deborah Kaufman, a daughter of Lynne Drohlich Kaufman and Ron S. Kaufman of Beverly Hills, Calif., is to be married on Sunday evening to Tad Andrew Josiah Fallows, a son of Deborah Fallows and James M. Fallows of Beijing. Rabbi Ian Adler is to perform the ceremony, which will include elements of Christian and Jewish traditions, at the Langham, Huntington Hotel and Spa in Pasadena, Calif.


Mark said...

Yes, elements are a wonderful thing, no matter how cynical you are in presenting - on an ongoing basis - marriage notices from the NY Times that don't fit with your view of who should and shouldn't marry.

I'm not arguing with your view (though obviously I don't agree with it) but why do you find it necessary to davka seek out and make snide comments about people who (unlike me who reads your blog) couldn't give a crap what you think of them.

Yes, there are elements of two "competing" religions. SO WHAT!
What's the chachmah of setting up artificial boundaries between people that are totally made up nonsense. Elements are nice, a tradition of where we come from etc. etc. BUT NOT NECESSARILY WHERE WE ARE GOING!

Everyone loves reminiscing about their younger days and the things they did but don't have stay stuck in the past. One can "remember it" without living it.

I know you don't agree, but remember, my question is why do you go out of your way to seek these items - are you jealous of the freedom to think outside the box?

YMedad said...

Well, I guess one's blog is one's castle (or fiefdom) and one does what one wants. But I really do think that the NYTimes wedding notices provide the little funny things that make for the spice of life. I don't think I have said anything really negative about anyone's weddings but have simply picked out the unique, outlandish and contradictory elements that appear - fmale Rabbi getting married by a male Rabbi, same-sex marriage with a mother who was in Jewish Family services, priests with Jews and Rabbis with Christians, etc. I observe life and point out things that maybe wouldn't occur to others. That's what makes my blog special - for me. I am not jealous to think outside the box and in my life I have done things that I know have made other people jealous of me: a trip to Moscow in 1976, beating up Neo-Nazis in 1965, sitting in a foxhole on the border with Jordan in June 1967, being a participant in the very first mass public protest demonstration for Soviet Jewry on May 1, 1964 and being thrown off the Temple Mount by four policemen in July 1971, among other things.

As for "artificial", they aren't artificial when one evolves or the next generation does as simply not Jewish. I believe being Jewish, in the broadest possible sense, i.e., not solely religious, is important not only for the young couples, their families but for the future of the whole Jewish people who still have a major contribution to make for the future of us all.

Mark said...

"...contradictory elements that appear - fmale Rabbi getting married by a male Rabbi, same-sex marriage with a mother who was in Jewish Family services..."

What is the contradiction of a female rabbi getting married by a male rabbi? Female rabbis do not negate the validity of male rabbis. Why would anyone want to invalidate somebody else anyway (though you seem to have fun doing it)?

What is the contradiction of a same-sex marriage with a mother who was in Jewish Family services? Though you may not like same-sex marriages, that doesn't mean they don't exist and that they may have partners in need of Jewish Family services.

I wouldn't be naive enough to ask you to change YOUR values, but why do you need to decide for OTHERS what their values should be?

YMedad said...

Let's just say you & I have different senses of humor. I see in these situations pointcounterpoint or opposites like same-sex marriage and family.

If I oppose something or think it destructive, I will write it.

Now, I will continue with life, having been at a wedding last night.