Sunday, December 13, 2009

Jewish Courting on the Upper West Side

Yes, it ends in marriage:-

...The couple met in 2005 through a mutual friend while living in New York. They ran into each other often because they traveled in the same circles and attended the same Jewish services on the Upper West Side. Mr. Glasner even made a few vague attempts at asking Ms. Yudkoff out, but she was always busy. In 2008, while they were planning a birthday party for their friend, Mr. Glasner was determined to make his intentions clear.

“He overtly asked can we go have a drink,” said Ms. Yudkoff, who agreed to meet him.

Then he realized that the date coincided with Holocaust Remembrance Day, and he was planning to spend time at the B’nai Jeshurun synagogue. “I usually go because I have family members who died in the Holocaust,” he said. “I go to read their names.”

He thought that it might put Ms. Yudkoff in an awkward position if he asked her to accompany him.

“Say no, she may come off as insensitive,” he said, “or, say yes, and it’s an unconventional first date.”

After meeting for a drink, they both went to the reading of names at around 11 p.m.

“When he asked me, I was impressed that he wanted me to do something so meaningful,” she said, “and he didn’t mind sharing that experience with me.”

While Mr. Glasner walked Ms. Yudkoff home, they spoke about the evening, about being close to their families and their similar ideas about raising children.

In June 2009, he decided to propose during their first camping trip, at Susquehanna State Park in Maryland. He excused himself and went to get something from the trunk of his car. He returned to the campfire wearing a suit, and carrying a rose and a ring.

After she said yes, they ate s’mores.

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